Stop trying to be someone else

You would think I would have known better.  I worked hard to create the life I have. In fact, I love my life and I don’t want to be anyone else.  HOWEVER…  over the past year or so, without knowing so, I was shutting myself out of my life.  It is amazing now when I look at it – I can’t believe I didn’t see it.

As many of you know, I am a Team Beachbody Coach and I love what I do.  In fact, I love it so much, I sometimes do it more than I should (I finally understand the workaholic mentality).  I am very successful in my coaching role and, of course as with anything I do – I am always looking for ways to improve.  That said, over the past 4 months or so I was struggling with how to do this.  As a top coach in the company, I was looking at my peers – the other top coaches, and trying to do my business like they did theirs.

I didn’t really know the intimate details of what they were all doing, but I kept thinking I just need to work more to get more done and then I can be even more successful.  What I didn’t realize was that I was giving up the things I loved most about the life I had created (friends, tennis, volunteering, etc.) and living out of my phone and my computer.  Now for some people, that would not faze them at all.  But for me — I am such a people person and I get a charge out of meeting people and helping them.

What I now realize I had done was I had turned off all of that contact and traded it for time in front of my PC (in my house alone, trying to work harder NOT SMARTER).  I was a natural at helping people and authentically sharing my passion for Beachbody but I was struggling to find my rhythm and honestly I could not pinpoint why.  After countless discussions with many of my peers and mentors it came to me – I had given up the interactions that drove my being and become STUCK in a world that wasn’t working for me.  I had known for a few months, many of the things that were missing in my life and even identified some of them on my 2013 vision board. 

As I worked through aligning my action steps with my goals in the first month of the year – it clicked.  I was showing up for my life but I wasn’t fully (or even partially) there.  I was present but not at all focused on the people or activities in front of me. Luckily as I realized what was missing and started to SHOW UP, everything fell back into place.  I could not believe how FULL my bucket could be.  I had already built so much of what I desired; I was just not taking advantage of any of it.  I am so grateful to have had this realization when I did.  Not only can I now ENJOY the life I have created, but I can help those around me take advantage of what they are creating.

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a trap of your own making?