How Judgments Hold Us Back

It’s really easy to want to stay comfortable, to not challenge yourself and refrain from doing things that are scary. Often, we don’t see a vision for ourselves and we keep on doing what we’ve always done. But that prevents us from growing.

Most successful people have confidence—in themselves and in the products and services they offer. We see them and make judgments about them because they’re so “out there.” And then when it’s time to put ourselves out there, we turn the tables and are afraid that others are judging us. When we’re too concerned about what other people are going to do or say to us, we don’t experience life to its fullest. Because again, we work really hard to stay in our comfort zone.

Live for Yourself

The fact is though, that most people just care about themselves. No one is going to notice what you’re doing because they’re too busy paying attention to their own world. And it doesn’t really matter what other people think. You have to live for yourself.

I was probably 25 before I finally realized that it didn’t really matter what other people thought. Before that, I lived my life for others and only did or said things I thought would be accepted by them. Then someone told me it didn’t matter what other people thought. And you know what? That person was right!

It’s interesting, because now 20 years later I’ve come to realize that you have to learn this lesson more than once in life. When situations change or become more complex, the lesson is the same but it needs to be relearned.

Committing to Uncomfortable

I’ve decided that in 2016, I am going to commit to being uncomfortable. I’m going to be more visible and work to help more people. I’m going to put myself out there more because I’ve plateaued and I need and want to grow again.

My gift is helping others and connecting with people and if I want to continue to do that, I need to find more people to connect with. It’s scary, but I’ve been letting fear and judgment hold me back. They might be holding you back too!

What are you going to do in 2016 to fulfill your purpose? Be on the lookout for me—you’ll be seeing a whole lot more from me!